You Are Not Alone
When someone you care about dies, it is one of life’s most painful events….perhaps even the MOST painful event you might experience. Our reaction to death is many faceted and extremely difficult to discuss. In many circumstances, those engulfed in grief are left alone to cope with their pain...especially after the initial couple of weeks have passed.
“GRIEF IS THE FEELING OF REACHING OUT FOR SOMEONE WHO’S ALWAYS BEEN THERE, ONLY TO DISCOVER WHEN I NEED HER [OR HIM] ONE MORE TIME, SHE’S NO LONGER THERE.”
What is grief ?
Grief is a natural human response to death and loss. Its pain is real and is best dealt with naturally. The body and mind will allow us only to deal with what we can handle, often overwhelming at times, Its affects and intensity will lessen in time. But, you know your life has changed and it is that change that we now need to learn to live with. Allow time, there is no quick fix to grief recovery.
We are here for you throughout the grief process. Whether it is helping yourself heal; or reaching out to a friend or a child coping with loss, we hope this section of our website will be helpful for you. As always, if you prefer to speak to someone directly, please contact us.
Helping yourself heal
Allow Yourself to Mourn
Someone you love has died. You are now faced with the difficult, but important, need to mourn. Mourning is the open expression of your thoughts and feelings regarding the death and the person who has died. It is an essential part of healing. You are beginning a journey that is often frightening, painful, overwhelming and sometimes lonely. This brochure provides practical suggestions to help you move toward healing in your personal grief experience.
Accepting a loss
For each of us — rich or poor, young or old — there are times in our lives when we must face and deal with personal losses and the pain and sorrow they cause. Examples that come easily to mind are the death of a parent, spouse, child, or other close family member or friend. Many other events and transitions also bring with them sadness and a need to grieve:
Being told you have a serious, possibly terminal illness.
Having to give up interests and activities that have been a major part of your life.
Seeing serious decline in mental or physical health of someone you love.
Retiring from a work career or voluntary activity that has helped shape who you are and what you stand for.
Losing a significant part of your independence and mobility; even giving up driving a car can be a significant loss for many people.
Moving out of your home.
Saying goodbye to a favorite pet.
Losses such as these are simply part of living. Like their counterparts among the joyful occasions in our lifetime — the birth of a child or grandchild, a celebration of marriage, an enduring friendship — they are part of what it means to share in the human experience. And the emotions they create in us are part of living, as well.
We Are Here For You
"We are here for you." - just a few words, but we think it says quite a bit more than that. Alex Espinosa Funeral Home is committed to your family's total care.